Anonymous said: Okay, I am in desperate need of help. I have been dating this guy for about a year now and I'm not sure what to do. We were good friends before we started dating so we are super comfortable with each other. The thing is that I don't think I'm happy in the relationship anymore. It was fine at first but now we fight all the time. Everything seems to be my fault and I'm always wrong. I can't bring myself to leave and I think it's because I'm so comfortable around him. Do I leave or do I stay?

I think you’re describing a friends/siblings kind of relationship more than a romantic one…being comfrotable with someone is not a reason to stay…(and I don’t really understand how fighting all the time could be comfortable to you…:)

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Anonymous said: Okay so this girl I like keeps sending me cute emojis like the one blowing a heart and different hearts and stuff like that, and I don't know if that's just what a lot if girls do or what and I'm not sure if she's trying to tell me something or not and I'm genuinely confused

You’ll have to give it some more time and see how it develops. No reason to hurry, stay confused for while…it’s fun!:)

Anonymous said: Recently the guy I've been involved with for 9 months and I started talking about seeing each other again. But I would have to make up an excuse to tell my mom and then go over to his house, because she for some reason doesn't like me at boys' houses. We were talking about sexual things and I'm afraid of this becoming a FWB thing instead of us having something serious like we almost did before, but forreal this time. I really like this guy, but I don't want us to be just sexually involved. :(

If you don’t want that, the logical solution is to NOT go there and see if he sticks around. If you stop being sexual with him (both through talking or actually having sex) and he sticks around, for a long time, than you’ll know, right?

Anonymous said: Sorry about that never finished the question. Anyway, we both agreed that we wouldn't be able to be boyfriends because he lives in America, and I live in Great Britain and the distance is too impractical. I don't know how we should go from here though, because we also agreed that we're going to stay friends.

If you agreed to stay friends, than stay friends. You don’t know what the future will bring, none of us do, so friends for now and just take it easy and try to stop planning ahead.

Good luck!

Anonymous said: So my bf and I broke up and now he's dating my friend!!! And she didn't even bother telling me!! I found out on my own. Tbh, I think he's only dating her to piss me off because when he broke my heart, I hooked up with his friend. I don't really know how to feel. I don't have feeling for him, not anymore. But it pisses me off that she wouldn't tell me.

So the person you’re really angry with is your friend, not your ex, if I get it right.

Why don’t you just sit down and talk to her and ask her why she didn’t tell you about this and why she is doing it in the first place?

She has better answers for you than I do, I assure you.

Come back and let me know how it went, and I’ll help from there…:)

Anonymous said: Me and my best friend like the same guy Btw she knows I like him too Anyway they went out for ice cream yesterday then after he hugged her I promised her I don't want a boy to ruin our friend ship but I can't help but feel jealous Any cure if jealousy or should I tell her or do I just keep my mouth shut please help

It’s o.k to be jealous, it’s normal in this situation, don’t beat yourself up.

If you both like the same guy, how did you come to an agreement that she “gets” him?

Anonymous said: I found this girl on instagram and for some reason i really liked her, she lives in a city very close to the town i live in and i want to somehow try to get to know her without seeming like a creep.. do you have any ideas on what i could do/say to get to know her?

Start commenting on the stuff she uploads and see how she reacts. That’s a good start.

Anonymous said: How do you initiate a kiss with your boyfriend? And to lead it to a make out? I'm so inexperienced and I'm kinda of awkward and shy (so is my boyfriend)

You just lean over and kiss him, when you feel the moment is right. As for the making out, that will happen on its own if the kiss goes well..

Try to let go and not plan things so much because it stresses you out and can ruin everything.

If you’re both shy just wait a little longer, until you are comfortabe enough with each other, and things will happen on their own.

Anonymous said: I went to a party last night and ended up making out with this guy who I personally think is really hot. And I ended up staying in the same bed with him and stuff, nothing happened because there was other people in the room but he was really handsy and was feeling me up completely and I could feel his boner digging into my back and stuff but now that obviously the party is over I don't actually know if he's going to even bother talking to me again? What should I do because I actually like him?..

So…what happened?

Anonymous said: So I started liking this guy recently. He's been the first guy I liked since getting my heartbroken by someone else almost a year and a half before. Anyway I found out the my best friend started liking this guy as well! I want to hangout with him and stuff but I don't know how to do that without being a jerk to my friend. She doesn't know I like him and honestly I have no idea what to do. Do I tell her? Or just forget about it and let her go for him?

I think you should tell her, and I think you should sit down and try to resolve this like best friends do. If you keep it in, it will rot in you forever until one day you’ll wake up and realize that you can’t stand her anymore and you blame her for not finding happiness with the guy you liked.

Trust me, this is how things work. Be open, honest and talk to her - That’s what really good friends do.

Anonymous said: My boyfriend broke up with me and not even a month later is officially dating a girl he works with who I thought was my friend. We were together for over a year. I feel like I'm going crazy with anger, sadness, and frustration, I don't even know what to do with myself. Any advice?

I can undrestand why you feel betrayed and helpless, and probably shocked by this.

But, there’s no point in being angry and frustrated, because it will get you no where. It will not change anything and I know it may seem hard to believe right now, I know that both of then haven’t planned this, they haven’t plotted angainst you and I’m sure they feel shitty about it, but attraction is not very easy to control, if at all.

I would concentrate on forgiveness. Not for them, but for you. To help you move on to a better place in your life, to the place you were meant to be, and that place is obviously not with him.

Do you understand?

Anonymous said: My boyfriend's going to college in a few weeks. We've been dating for almost a year and I love him more than anything in the world. When we first discussed it we realized a long distance relationship would be too hard on both of us. I know he loves me to the moon and back and realizing we'll have to break up but still love each other breaks my heart. Do you have any advice for how to deal with this?

I think you are making the right decision and saving yourselves from a whole lot of heart ache and all the sh*t that comes with a LDR.

Trust the universe/god that the right things will happen, the things that are meant to happen will happen and if you were meant to be I promise you will find your way back to each other some day.

Until then, live your life. Move on. Live the now, it’s all we have.

Anonymous said: Hello, so my aunt ( my mums sister) married my uncle ( who isn't related to me by blood) and my uncles half brother has a son who I have a crush on. It's a mutual thing but I'm worried to go there. We aren't related by blood in any way but is it weird or wrong and will people look down on us for it? Also although we aren't related by blood we do share a cousin what are your thoughts?

No, I don’t think it’s weird, there’s no blood connection and who cares what other people think, it’s what you think that matters.

Just my opinion, hope it helps.

Anonymous said: So my boyfriend and I have been dating for nearly five months now and lately things have gotten weird, and I don't know why. When we are texting he will stop replying and just not reply, and he knows one of my pet hates is when people just ignore my messages. And whenever we are together sometimes it's like he just seeks refuge in his phone and just doesn't want to be with me anymore, I love him so much and I just want things back to how they were, please help me

Yes, something is probably up and he may be planning to bail. The worst thing to do is to try and “be better” or to try and please him. The other way around.

You do the same. By busy, too bust to see him, be a little distant. This way at least you’ll get the truth out of him, or in the best case scenario he will realize that he may lose you and get it together and talk to you about what’s bothering him.

I hope this helps and good luck to you.